Embrace the struggle

I know my blog is not the most updated blog so here is a note i wrote on my diary months ago when i was feeling blue and thought of sharing...

18 February 2010

Some people achieve what they want easily some people have to work hard and pray for good outcomes and results. Life is fair in its own way. But only few people notice the positive aspects of life yes we are living in a dream. And the real day is to come. Almost everyone is soo worried about this dream land that they forget what us humans are here for.

Yesterday I was skimming through this book recommended by a teacher of mine. It’s a book called “OUTLIERS”. The book is about how people succeed in life. Career and academic wise that is. And the line “Embrace the struggle” caught my eye.

It looks unusually familiar and it gave hope for people like me who have to struggle by themselves and work hard through obstacles to reach that specific destination. And yes through that journey what makes it much harder is to see people who worked less than you succeed. Why is this possible? I am sure someday I’ll find my answer.

As for me im gonna work hard to reach my goals and find the answers to my questions which keeps bugging me for years.

Quote of the day :D

"Great Spirits have always encountered violent opposition from midiocre minds" Albert Einstein

Back again :D

I have been away from my blog for a while since i had many things going on in my life. The most important thing of all is the i finally got married. In case you didnt know us girls start to dream about special day since we are way younger.
All the plannings and preperations did pay off and we had the most wonderful time with our loved ones on that special day which was followed by our honeymoon.

After returning from my honeymoon i started packing to move to my love's place. I didnt know i had so much stuff. Too much clothes and books to handle that i finally decided to give some away. I didnt know moving from one place to another was so time consuming since i have been living in my home my whole life.

Right now im experiencing a new life. Living with someone or waking up next to someone is new for me. Its such a good feeling to have someone by your side.

I hope i come up with a intresting blog soon.

Its all about patience

One of my closest friends is getting married to her long term boyfriend after being together for 8 years. You can only imagine what they gone through together. This is a rare case I might say. Only a handfull of people get to spend the rest of their life with there first love or with their one and only love. And many people wonder if it possible. Ofcourse. It depends on the type of person who you choose to spend the rest of your life with. If that person can tolerate your clumsiness or your nervous breakdowns from time to time he/she is the one for you. I wish my girl the best of luck in every step she takes.

Just a thought

I dont know about anyone else but I feel that during Ramazan the atmosphere seems more pleasant. And the fact that the roads are quiet with less people making noices on the street. For a person who likes peace and quietness what more could you ask for. And right now its raining "himafodhu vaarey" which is a really nice scene to watch.

Sumthing about me

Whats your middle name?
I don’t have one

How big is your bed?
Big enough to fit me

What are you listening to right now?
My niece knocking on the door

What are the last 4 digits in your cellphone number?
Yea rite :P

What was the last thing you ate?
Chocolate biscuit pudding (only 2 spoons, I swear)

Last person you hugged?
My nephew??

How is the weather right now?
Rainy

Who was the last person you talked to on the phone?
My baby

What is the first thing u notice in the opposite sex?
Personality (ahem …looks too)

Favorite type of Food.
Sea food

Do you want children?
Ofcourse

Hair color?
Black

Eye colour?
Dark Brown

Do you wear contacts/glasses?
Used to, had the sexy nerd look going ;)

Favorite holiday?
Thursday night

Have you ever cried over a boy?
Everyone does at some point of there lives.

Last Movie you Watched?
City of Angels (had to watch it one more time after 12 years)

What books are you reading?
Alchemist and the Guardian started both but no time

Piercings?
Ears

Favorite Movie?
Ps. I love You

Previously on "Ramazan"

@ HOME
In usual days i would come home around 330-400pm and help around the kitchen even though when i come home most of the food is prepared since my mom wakes up early and she starts her work around 1000. Since i live in one big house which is distributed to 5 of my mom's sisters we exchange what we prepared every day, its our tradition.
At the time to break fast we all squeeze into one table. Even the little guys who are too young to fast join us. BTW I live with my mom, dad, my brother, my sister, bro in law,2 nieces so guess how hectic its gonna be. But i enjoy it. It brings people together after a busy day.

@CLASS
Last ramazan I was doing my first semester and i would go to classes from 930-1100pm. Back then the we were the newbies and the senior batch had a lot to talk about in the class. We would sit their "anga matcha nagaigen" and thinking that its unfair that majority of the students are a senior batch and they are kinda "foni" about it. Most wouldn’t even talk to us. But when our time came to be the senior batch, we actually got along with the junior batch and actually made friends with them based on the past experience.

@Lonely times.
Did i forget to mention that last roadhamas i was dating my ex at that time. The relationship was kinda coming to an end. He only came to my place 2 or 3 times the whole month and my mom and sis keeps asking me where the hell he is and why isn’t he coming. What can i say? He was out with his friends o going out to coffee's with other girls. He took me for granted. After coming from clases i would just lie down on the sofa watch some TV and go to bed. And wake up and go to office. I would walk to office while fasting and became really stressed out and unfit that one day i fainted luckily i reached the sitting room. My little niece and my elder bro made a joke about it calling me "Raas Tas" yea like the wataniya advertsement where they showed some one fainting, i think its the fishermen.

@ RAMAZAN BREAK FASTS
Ocean Breeze: I went to Ocean Breeze restaurant with my best friends. we got a good table with a sea view. We actually went there early. One of my best friends has a baby girl. Yea she is one sweet kid. She was showing dhoni's out side calling "moodhu car" cute right? I also showed her a dhoni and accidently called out loud "sea car" yea it sounded weird and became a joke amongst my friends.

Aioli: I like the ambience of the place. A very cozy feeling. The food was quite nice and remember savoring on the cheese cake. We went their for the office roadha veelun and also to say farewell to 2 of our colleagues.

West Park: Not a big fan of west park but we couldn’t get any other place to fit all our class mates. And yea that was the day i had my first chat with my love. He decided to sit my group of friends. I found out he is quite a nice guy with good manners and also thought he was kinda cute. And after we finished me and my friend decided to walk home but another classmate who has been eyeing me for a long time offered me a ride. I saw the look on my love's face at that moment he looked "kada vefa" and i knew he had a thing for me from that moment. Any who, we said no and me and my friend left home.

Wish i could be there..........

My best of friends are currently having a vacation at Singapore. But i didn’t go because i had to cut classes and also because I want to take leave for more important things later on this year. We have planned this trip a lot of times but were unable to go. I was talking about this to a colleague of mine and he said that remember that everything happens for good plus you get to save more for your higher studies, i also keep thinking like that. So in conclusion I hope I get the chance of going some place nice with my friends when timings are right.

Hard work pays off

Dear readers, today i got my abe exams results and yes i passed all subjects with good results. Insha Allah. I thank Allah and my loved ones since I alone couldnt have done it. Here is a post i wrote on 6 July excatly one month before the day of my results. At that time i was quite insecure about what i have done in my exams so here it goes.


"Everyone expect good things out of life. And with my personal experience things just dont happen that easily. Nothing is handed down. Like getting a job from the organisationation you have dreamed to work with or getting the guy of your dreams or getting good results in an exam.I had to work hard on each of the above. And what i have found most amazing is that the more closer you get to GOD, your prayers get answered only hard work is not just enough.So my dear friends, never give up on your dreams.

Sometimes its amazing how people who really doesnt work hard enough get it for free just like that and they dont know what they have got and make a mess out of the good things they have. You see these spoiled rich kids go into drugs, party hard and really not pay attention to whats really important in life yet in the end they get chance to work in the best organisations and do nothing and go to best univertsities and just keep changing their courses or just go their to socialise. What kind of life is that. Spending their parents hard earned money and just lazing off"

Got to go my friends iam really happy :)

Cox we're living in a material world

For guys it would be huge cars, flat screen TVs and video games and for girls it would be clothes and jewelries. Yes you have to admit that we are living in an material world. No matter how high the inflation goes up nor how costly goods and services have become we still have the enough courage to buy the things that we crave for.

When most of were young we didn’t have many options on toys we just accept what was given to us and we just share with our siblings nor did we bargain for more. We were happy with what we got. But when we start to earn a living we start buying all this stuff we couldn’t have when we were young as if we are trying to relive our childhood and do the things we couldn’t do at those times. Can you blame us?

I’m not saying that you should spend all of your allowances for materialistic possessions and I am not making fun of people who save all of their cash for later.
Well mostly because i was one of them until when the time came that i realized no matter how much you save your money you are never satisfied.

You should reward your self somtimes by buying something that gives you happiness even though amount of satisfaction you get from the goods that you brought decreases with time. And to avoid the guilt of spoiling your self too much try to make other people happy by providing them with what they want. To tell you the truth it is more satisfying than spending it on your self.

An update

I just breaked my fast an hour ago feel so tired and sleepy. My day went quite boring.
My supervisor was kinda nice to me when i got back to office after taking one day leave. Most probably feeling guilty of sumthing. Any ways ramazan is getting so near i dont know the working hours yet anyhow my day will begin around 9 and upto 11pm ill be busey cox after returning home from work while guys rest us girls have to prepare the food and after they eat we have to clean up their mess, im not complaining but things got to change its time for guys to help us around this is 21st century. I have to attend classes from 930-1100 during night so no time for going out for shopping or anything during ramazan. BTW i need to get ready to go to class. My new semester had started but "adhi kiyevumaa gayaa nuveigen" as my other class mates would say. Bye for now

Strong yet weak

Just because they are strong it doesn’t mean they don’t need the love and affection like a normal person does. When you say they can deal with it by their selves your letting someone be alone when they need you the most even though they might not admit it. But always believe that stronger people exist for a reason, which is to help and guide the weaker ones. But don’t forget that in order for them to be strong they need the help of others. Even the bravest person becomes weak at times.

Saturday blues...

So here iam in my room, feeling grumpy because my week end is coming to an end. I seriously would love a vacation. To tell you the truth I don’t know the last time I had a vacation. Well for ther past four years I have been working my ass off yet I am neither satisfied nor feel a sense of achievement. The only breaks I took were for 2 of my exams and for my lasik surgery at India. You can’t call that a vacation especially when you are stuck in a room till you recover.

Any how its 0517hrs at evening and im thinking of doing some shopping before i attend my classes tonight. Its amazing how time flies by just like that, if only we had a remote to pause, rewind or in some situations fast forward some moments in our life.

Announcement of your death on TV, Just a thought

I was watching TV the other day and I suddenly saw the typical announcement from a family since one of there loved ones passed away. The first thought that came to my mind was “wow… someday they are going to announce my death too, just like everyone else’s” and I guessed how people’s reactions would be “oh ... She died, that’s sad she was a nice person” and they move on with their daily lives.

U say it best wen u say nothing at all

Sometimes its better to keep our mouths shut and let the things as it is. As my lecturer said last night. “People these days are too emotional”. People are getting angry and sad too fast. People get hurt too easily and these days you have to double check in your brain before saying the politically correct words. Phew...

“The current generation is all about their feelings”

If we don’t show our emotions who would know how we feel about things. If we are happy, angry or sad about something we should talk about it. Well that’s my opinion. I myself don’t really show my emotions in front of many people. But I blog from time to time. It helps me to clear my mind and thoughts without disturbing any one or getting on their nerves. Well I try my best not to get on anyone’s nerves, but these days I get bit over the top.

New day new things happening

For a change my supervisor is in a good mood today. Now thats good right

Me and my mom had a litle talk in the morning. Appearantly someone told my mom that im getting married soon before i broke her the news. Who is that suprise killer, i wonder? But thanks any how you made my day easy. But next time dont poke your nose into my personal life unless you are asked to. Seriously u killed the suprise and made my mom upset because i didnt tell her before. But im glad she already knows.

Better get home soon so i can get ready and hit the gym after few months. Need to burn some calories and afterwards got to attend my classes.

Bye for now......

MIXED FEELINGS

Past few days I have been having these mixed feelings.

Frustrated/disappointed

I feel angry and disappointed at work, mostly because I’m not happy by the way things are going. I had so many expectations by joining a very well known organization. I actually left my previous employer since I have always wanted to be part of the organization. But soon after I joined I the reality hit the fan. There was no proper orientation, they started judging you before you have settled down, no matter how hard you work even though it is out of your JD but they rarely say thanks or recognized the hard work. and to make things worse they just smile when they see each other and back bite when they are not around.

Nervous/anxious

My final semester has just begun, and this semester is going to be tough, especially Business Law as they say. And I’m really nervous about my previous semester results. I know I tried my level best given that my office approved 5 days of leave to prepare for the exam since there was a staff shortage. The exam went kind of rough specially economics since they changed the structure of the usually easy paper by not including any question which requires calculation. That is how usually the students escaped in previous semesters. Any how, I really hope for the best, and please wish me good luck. May god be with me.

Happy/Excited

And coming to my personal life, I have good news. Insha Allah I’ll hopefully be married soon. Which is like very soon. We got engaged on my love’s bday. It was the sweetest moment in my life. After going out to a dinner to celebrate his bday, and after coming back to my place suddenly he got to his knees and proposed with the most beautiful ring iv ever seen. And to tell you the truth he is the kindest and most caring person to be with, I love the fact that he has got manners, takes life seriously and works hard to achieve his goals. I’m glad that finally I met one who loves me for who I am and im glad he is there for me when ever I need him.

My recurring nightmare

Last night I had that same dream again. I saw u standing near my bed. Watching me with those dark eyes without a blink. I felt your presence I knew you where there. I dared to open my eyes. It was too surreal. I felt drawn back to my dream again. And again I saw you. I was following you to the same that place that you took me to.

It was June 2006, me and friends went on an overnight trip to a picnic island in Male’ atoll. It was dusk and we went to gather the firewood to bbq the delicious catch of the day. Since it was around 630 I knew our group we were the only people n that particular island. Me and friend decided to hide from the rest of the group to have a smoke. Since the rest of crowd didn’t know of our habit we went straight into the woods. We found a perfect spot . It had already started getting dark but we didn’t mind, we were smoking and engaged in this meaningless conversation. All of a sudden we heard a cry in agony
It was coming behind from us. We pretended not to be scared. Me “You heard that?” my friend“nahh, must be nuthin” me"probably"

Later that night, after dinner we were in our sleeping bags. Cold, fresh salty breezes were coming from the sea. Making me sleepier and sleepier. Its times like this that we miss while living in Male'. Anyways i was fast asleep. I felt someone tugging on my sleeping bag. I open my eyes. To my surprise standing near the foot of my sleeping bag was a small kid. around 3 feet tall. a boy. Because it was bit dark i couldn’t see his face clearly, I wondered if any of my friends brought their kid and why is he roaming around in the middle of the night without any supervision. Why is he distracting my sleep. “What’s up kid?” yet he stood their without a mumble. Then he started walking, towards the beach. I decided not to bother. Too darn sleepy. But wait what if he drowns what if he gets lost. Will I forgive my self? I suddenly got up to my feet and started following him. What I saw next, changed my life forever.....
To be continued...

AN ANGRY THOUGHT

KAMEH NEYGIGEN INGEY MEEHA KAIRY EHEEMA ANANY RULHI.ITHURU BAHANA NUDHAKKA KURI SUVAALUGE JAVAABU DHINIYYA EMMENGE VAGUTHU SALAIMAI VAANE NOONTHA?

Just get over it

Within last few months my i have gained extra kgs. Im not over weight, actually my BMI is normal for a person who is 5’3 but still i don't like the extra attention i get from this weight gain good n bad especially from people who should get on with their own lifes. People keep telling me that I have gained weight as if i don't know. cummon its my own body who else could understand it better than me. It’s like someone else telling you how many teeth you have in your mouth. Kind of annoying. Maybe some are concerned or maybe they thought they just found a loop hole.

So for people who keep asking me why I have started to gain weight here are the reasons take your pick

a. I have never been happier, Iam with the most kind and caring person a girl could find. (previously I was in a kind of abusive relationship, you know that kind of guy you want to stay away from)

b. I did personal training on my first semester break, I had to quit because it clashes with my 2nd sem classes and when I stopped suddenly I started gaining weight. Hoping to join after get the timings on this semester; D

c. I have actually started to eat healthy, at least 3 meals per day

So for people who keeps bugging me about about the recent changes, just get over it

CRIME

The above word itself sound ruthless, give you chills in the spines but does any one of normal citizen without a degree in psychology or criminology or other related field ever think about it. It is so common in our society these days but how many of us really take few minutes of their busy schedule and ever think about it and make them selves aware or take any precautionary matter when we are living in the most densely populated city in the world with the ever-increasing crime rate. This is not the same peaceful place as our grandparents or parents used to describe.

June 22

Murder/Self defense
Below is a very recent case in the capital city Male’ everyone is talking about it. Here is what I have heard
A 21 year old women stabs her ex husband to death which was described as self defense from the source which I have heard the news. It seems that the woman was frequently beaten by her ex husband when they were married. And they also had fights at her workplace and few people have witnessed it. The man was described to be very violent and the wife had gone to police several times with her case. Apparently the women handed herself over to the police after stabbing her husband to death. And the sad part of the story is that they have a kid.

Suicide/Accident
A 17 year old girl fell off a balcony from 4th floor of a building. Apparently she had some trouble at school with the neibouring class and their problem was take to the school principal by a supervisor. Her mother who doesn’t live with her talked on the phone regarding the above matter and few minutes later she fell off the balcony and was pronounced dead.

2 serious cases within one day. The public is shocked. No one knows the truth behind each case. What could be the reason? What can we do about it? Is the current situation going to get better or worse? Are the political leaders really taking these issues seriously? Are the parents or the schools to blame? Is it wise for the community to bargain for infrastructure, loans when crime is the major issue? Where can the troubled victims get help before it is too late? If they go to the authorities will consider to investigate? If they go to a psychotherapist will their grievances be kept confidential?

So many questions arise when you think about it and who should we go for answers or who should we put the blame upon?

Open up a little

One of loved ones read my post and suggested to make it more personal. And I replied by saying that I keep my inner thoughts and complains locked up in my diary not in my blog. And one day I will show it to the love of my life when we grow old. Is it me or others do others have this similar problem. Letting your guard down is so hard these days. Even among those innocent faced friends, they have this two face effect where they show their lovely face in front of you and behind you they show this ugly evil face. It has become such a bad and familiar habit that people tend to talk about the person who is absent at that moment even among the best of friends and they seem to enjoy it without any guilt.

Life of a reflector

In this world you see four kinds of people. The activist’s (style 1): are know to be gregarious, seek challenge, wants immediate experience, open-minded, but at the same time gets bored with implementation. The theorists (style 2): are known think things through in logical steps, assimilate disparate facts into coherent theories, rationally objective, reject subjectivity and flippancy. The Pragmatists (style 3): seek and try out new ideas, practical, down-to-earth, enjoy problem solving and decision-making quickly, bored with long discussions. The Reflectors (style 4): 'stand back', gather data, ponder and analyze, delay reaching conclusions, listen before speaking, thoughtful. Well, I myself see’s my self as a reflector.

Work Life
Yes I know it’s a weakness of mine that I stand back at times. I am known to be the shy one in a crowd. I don’t participate that much but I like the gathering data part and I love observing people around me. Especially at work it helps me to get to know my colleagues easily and to establish my boundaries and makes it so easy to predict the people who are here to stay and who are ambitious. I don’t like to jump into conclusions because I like to reflect my past experiences good or bad before making the decisions which makes me a slow decision maker. I have seen that people who jump into conclusions often end up in the same mess as before. Isn’t it what life is teaching you? To learn from your mistakes. I hate it when some colleagues don’t have the capability to listen to others problems or questions or complains and tries to be defensive. Cummon we are all here to learn and make mistakes in our safety net. And in times of stress people tend to become annoying, trivializing to their colleagues which I don’t really get.

Private Life
I myself have made really stupid decisions in my life like at o levels or a levels, not working with my full potential or dating people who doesn’t actually fit into my criteria of a “good” boy friend. But what heck, past is past and everyone make stupid decisions just by living in the moment and when the time comes when you realize your own mistakes you reflect upon it, conceptualize and again bring the plan into action. Once again u may succeed but with fewer mistakes. This is known to be the special quality of us “the reflectors”. ;P

If I had the chance to way of learning I would still prefer to be a reflector but with the good qualities of a pragmatist and try to be innovative, practical and enjoy the problem solving part. Pragmatist or reflector I hate the long discussions with no fruitful outcomes. Such a waste of time it is

I'm back. In case u where wondering....

Well its been almost a month since my last blog. i just finished my exams few weeks ago and still on rest mode . I had one of the laziest weekend the way it should be. Just lying on my bed catching up on the series and movies which i wanted to see. And few weeks from now my final semester will begin. And again the busey life will begin. its not a easy thing to earn a living and study at the same time. Both things are important at same level and you are always pressured to do your best and its so important to keep yourself motivated since you are doing it for your own future. Any who... I hope i come up with sumthin good to read.... soon:p

live a healthy life with no stress …… island style; D

How many of us wish that we were born in another era or wondered if life could have been simple with no worries. No bills to pay, no important meetings to attend, no deadlines, no nothing which causes stress and strain in our lives. We keep looking at pictures of those places which we want to go after we retire or get a leave from work. There are few people brave enough just to leave their jobs for one or two years with a backpack and just travel while they are young. I don’t know why people wait to go in these cruise ships when they become old and wrinkly. No offence. But it couldn’t it be more fun to buy a one way ticket to the place of your choice and just get lost but in a good way and not get in trouble.

I have seen in Discovery and other channels where people are doing this. Why many Maldivians aren’t willing to do these crazy acts just leave with a back pack on "mirey furaa dhoaniga" to see the islands and experience their life styles. Or even learn to survive on your own in a deserted island. Speaking of it I recently saw this Maldivian reality series which shows how a person can survive when they get stranded. Luckily this guy got stranded with his handy dandy swiss army knife and even at one point he mentioned how a wet suit could help while fishing and out of no where he was wearing one.

Coming back to the point, us Maldivians are becoming so materialistic, working their ass off like robots to get what they want. It’s good that everyone has a goal to achieve but once in a while everyone should stop and just relax. Remember that there was a time when we earned just enough to put a roof our head and to satisfy our hunger but in the same time we were so fulfilled and happy. Wasn’t that what our forefathers taught us, to live a healthy life with no stress …… island style; D

Guys n the flat screen TVs

Some say it’s a passion and some say it’s an obsession what could it be? When u go for a ride with your guy and suddenly he pauses, admires her slender n sleek shape you are bound to get jealous.

Yes you know what I’m talking about it’s the flat screen TV. What is this relation with guys and their love for the flat screen TVs. They cant seem to get enough of it as if it is their better half.

When we say AWWWWW to pics of cute babies n puppies they say AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW to the flat screen TVs.I mean seriously what all the commotion about other than the world cup being few weeks away. Im sooo curious ;D

Life and the drama

Everyone’s life is so dramatic these days, good enough to make a movie out of it. You keep thinking that your life is a mess but to come to think of it, everyone around you is in deep shit too except for people who pretend that everything is so picture perfect in their lives.
It all starts when your young you fight with your play mates, you want their toys and at the same time you don’t want to share.


When your teens the real thing begins when you get attracted to the opposite sex. Then you fall for the worst kind of people or in some cases you fall for the people who doesn’t love you in return but at the same time they get jealous when you move on.


Then comes your 20s n 30s when you try achieve something out of life and there comes the obstacles. Stinky job, job dissatisfaction and in the end some one else takes all the credit of your hard work but you keep holding on for the pay. They say money is not a motivator but it sometimes is. And when it comes to relationships some people wants to settle down while others are afraid of commitment or some are more career oriented.

Funny part of it is that people actually like the chaos and the drama. Some people say it adds a little bit of spice in their lives.

Quote of the day

" Dharifulhaa Vejje Ehnun Thankolhe Gevehivaan" says mom

THANK U LOVE

You came into my life when I was giving up on it,

You touched my soul with your kindness,

You fought for me every step through the way,

Thankyou for loving me for who iam,

Thankyou for loving me even though my writing sucks ;D

Forever i shall cherish you my love

All I wanna say is that, they don't really care about us

The hot topic on everyone’s mouth is political parties and their broken promises. Even when we go for a café we see these members from political parties and their supporters saying “aadhe aadhe” to every word which they say. And I see some grown men stationed at these haruge’s fully committed to supporting these people 24/7 blabbering these words insulting their opponent’s dignity and respect. “Hiyaalu faalhu kurumuge minivankan” so they say. Don’t they have families to attend to? Don’t they have mouths to feed?

And after a busy day of work and when we meet our friends for a coffee why can’t we talk about something else. Something less depressing or less argumentative. Don’t you know already each of these political parties have they own interests in their mind. And everyone knows that the only people who will gain anything good from it is the political leaders and their families.

Politics is a dirty game of money, power and crime even the late Michael Jackson knows it

Skin head, dead head
Everybody gone bad
Situation, aggravation
Everybody allegation
In the suite, on the news
Everybody dog food
Bang bang, shot dead
Everybody's gone mad

All I wanna say is that
They don't really care about us

So for all the people who keep complaining about what they don’t have please count your blessings and also start to work for a living. Put an extra effort to everything that you do so you will get that satisfaction of achieving something on your own. Everyone talks about what their rights are but nobody talks about their responsibilities. And most important thing of all is to HAVE FAITH IN GOD.

SICK OF YOUR JOB? O NOT MOTIVATED ENOUGH?

How many of us ask our selves the above questions when we are fed up of our jobs and then decide to get another job (typical Maldivian culture). Before doing this why don’t you ask your self what you’re missing or why your not MOTIVATED enough.


Maslows Hirachy of Needs

Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a theory in psychology, proposed by Abraham Maslow in his 1943 paper A Theory of Human Motivation. I know most psychology and human resource students are familiar with this theory and No Im not trying to give a lecture, but I thought this theory applies to every human being and thought I would share what I know about ” motivation”

Maslow suggested that people are in a continuous state of motivation and nature of motivation variable and complex. Satisfaction is temporary and moves onto the next. In other words these needs start from bottom to top in order of priority when one satisfy lower ones and then move onto other ones.




1. Lower most level is physiological needs which are the basic necessity of every human being. To be taken care of before anything else eg: air, water, food, shelter, sleep and sex

2.Safety needs to protect themselves from danger and security needs such as job security

3.Love / social needs- need to be accepted by others especially from formal (office) and informal (friends) groups.

4.Esteem needs-Pride in them selves, sense of achieving something, Appreciation, become noticed, status

5.Self actualization needs- Accomplish everything which person is capable of

So which level are you on? I think I have reached love/social needs yet to reach esteem needs and self actualization needs.

I hope you found out how motivation works :D

Does locking your daughters in your houses really protect them from what’s out there?

My opinion really doesn’t have to match yours but here is a real life story (a summarized version minus the drama) to prove my point.

“Ish was raised by very reserved parents. And in her parents opinion a girl really doesn’t need to go out side and it is better for them to stay home to protect them from the outside world, so Ish did what she was told to do. As a result she was a bit socially awkward at times when she went out with her friends or at school.

At age of 15 most of her friends started to date and to fit in she also did the same. She didn’t think much nor did any research on what type of guy it was. What she only knew was he comes from a normal family, very social and hangs out with the cool kids. They were 2 years apart. Any sort of interactions between them was via telephone until she finished her school.

By that time her parents also started to accept the relationship. He had manners and really got along with her family members. The problem was that he hangs out with the hip crowd with a bad reputation and doesn’t have a stable job. Anyways they kept going with their relationship for years until he came up to her and confessed that he is into drugs. So for the relationships sake she decided to forgive him until her parents found out so it came to an end.”

Why didn’t she know by her self that he is an addict before he confessed after so many years?

Some parents think that locking their daughters from outside world really protects them but the truth is they are less aware of what happens outside world. The above story could have been different if she was aware of the outside world and was able to recognize these kinds of people. I am not saying that you should send your daughters where ever they want to go but let them see for them selves what’s going on.

What did she loose or gained in the end?

She spent most of teen years with this guy with no future while she could have been a regular teenager just enjoying her youth. However she had to learn the hard way that appearances can be deceiving and also to make better choices in life ahead.

SKIN COLOR, COOKING SKILLS OR BRAINS?

The other night when I came home around 2030hrs my sister was watching Sony. Must be the typical a scene at almost every house hold at that time of the day. Time to watch the hindi series after a busy day of household chores for the ladies.

I also decided to take a seat then suddenly there came this advertisement of a new hindi series. It shows a young girl playing in the sun when her mom or granma calls her to get out of the sun all because she could get darker skin (cant a girl enjoy a little bit of sun and her childhood after all playing is also part of their development), then it showed a grown up stage of her, she was studying and again her mom/grams come and tells her to reduce the amount of studies and do more household work because according to her after a girl gets married her studies goes to waste and household/cooking skills only come in handy( is cooking skills only for girls, what about for guys who prefers to be independent or decides to go abroad for their studies and away from their mommies). What was all that about???

Does it mean us girls, especially Asian girls are chosen for their cooking skills and skin tones rather than her brains. A person may have a lighter skin tone but does it make them a better person or if the girl is a good cook does it mean that she has no evil inside? All these questions came into my mind

I myself was told almost the same by a loved one of mine “why are you studying so much when you get married , have children and you have to stay home and take care of your kids and what you study goes to waste” I was deeply surprised and saddened at the same time. I know I can’t blame her for saying that there is a huge generation gap between us, almost forty years difference and I don’t mind if I had to stay home to take care of my OWN CHILDREN. But what I believe is if a mother is educated it does make a difference in “tharubiyyathu” of their own children.

But if a person is only chosen for their beauty but has no values in life what happens to their kids? And by the way, what happens to girls who are neglected because they don’t fit into the typical criteria of skin deep beauty?

Little bit about me

First thing a person would recognize about when they see me is my silence and most people think I’m a mess or that I’m a troubled person. But the reality is I don’t really give a damn what other people think of me. My philosophy is simple, I don’t mind other peoples business or gossip about them and so I expect the same from them. I prefer having a small group of friends rather than a larger group who really doesn’t fit together. I adore my friends and they are one of the most important part of my life next to my family and the love of my life. A text book “introvert” rite? Well not completely I hope so.

In general, I have to say that I have a lot of goals to achieve in life and I don’t really feel that I have achieved any so far and I still have a long way to go. I’m in a full time job and studying part time which takes most of my day but it’s for my own career development and personal satisfaction.

I know it’s cheesy but here is a song for the people who dare to dream.

I can almost see it
That dream I'm dreaming but
There's a voice inside my head sayin,
You'll never reach it,
Every step I'm taking,
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking but I
Got to keep trying
Got to keep my head held high

There's always going to be another mountain
I'm always going to want to make it move
Always going to be an uphill battle,
Sometimes you going to have to lose,
Ain't about how fast I get there,
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb

BEGINING OF SOMETHING NEW

This is me blogging for the first time. I was convinced by my boyfriend to start a blog and he helped me out with the geek stuff which I’m not really good at and I’m quite satisfied with outcome, my profile doesn’t look that bad rite?
Well it’s up to me to come up with a good read. And I think this is a good start;D