live a healthy life with no stress …… island style; D

How many of us wish that we were born in another era or wondered if life could have been simple with no worries. No bills to pay, no important meetings to attend, no deadlines, no nothing which causes stress and strain in our lives. We keep looking at pictures of those places which we want to go after we retire or get a leave from work. There are few people brave enough just to leave their jobs for one or two years with a backpack and just travel while they are young. I don’t know why people wait to go in these cruise ships when they become old and wrinkly. No offence. But it couldn’t it be more fun to buy a one way ticket to the place of your choice and just get lost but in a good way and not get in trouble.

I have seen in Discovery and other channels where people are doing this. Why many Maldivians aren’t willing to do these crazy acts just leave with a back pack on "mirey furaa dhoaniga" to see the islands and experience their life styles. Or even learn to survive on your own in a deserted island. Speaking of it I recently saw this Maldivian reality series which shows how a person can survive when they get stranded. Luckily this guy got stranded with his handy dandy swiss army knife and even at one point he mentioned how a wet suit could help while fishing and out of no where he was wearing one.

Coming back to the point, us Maldivians are becoming so materialistic, working their ass off like robots to get what they want. It’s good that everyone has a goal to achieve but once in a while everyone should stop and just relax. Remember that there was a time when we earned just enough to put a roof our head and to satisfy our hunger but in the same time we were so fulfilled and happy. Wasn’t that what our forefathers taught us, to live a healthy life with no stress …… island style; D

Guys n the flat screen TVs

Some say it’s a passion and some say it’s an obsession what could it be? When u go for a ride with your guy and suddenly he pauses, admires her slender n sleek shape you are bound to get jealous.

Yes you know what I’m talking about it’s the flat screen TV. What is this relation with guys and their love for the flat screen TVs. They cant seem to get enough of it as if it is their better half.

When we say AWWWWW to pics of cute babies n puppies they say AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW to the flat screen TVs.I mean seriously what all the commotion about other than the world cup being few weeks away. Im sooo curious ;D

Life and the drama

Everyone’s life is so dramatic these days, good enough to make a movie out of it. You keep thinking that your life is a mess but to come to think of it, everyone around you is in deep shit too except for people who pretend that everything is so picture perfect in their lives.
It all starts when your young you fight with your play mates, you want their toys and at the same time you don’t want to share.


When your teens the real thing begins when you get attracted to the opposite sex. Then you fall for the worst kind of people or in some cases you fall for the people who doesn’t love you in return but at the same time they get jealous when you move on.


Then comes your 20s n 30s when you try achieve something out of life and there comes the obstacles. Stinky job, job dissatisfaction and in the end some one else takes all the credit of your hard work but you keep holding on for the pay. They say money is not a motivator but it sometimes is. And when it comes to relationships some people wants to settle down while others are afraid of commitment or some are more career oriented.

Funny part of it is that people actually like the chaos and the drama. Some people say it adds a little bit of spice in their lives.

Quote of the day

" Dharifulhaa Vejje Ehnun Thankolhe Gevehivaan" says mom

THANK U LOVE

You came into my life when I was giving up on it,

You touched my soul with your kindness,

You fought for me every step through the way,

Thankyou for loving me for who iam,

Thankyou for loving me even though my writing sucks ;D

Forever i shall cherish you my love

All I wanna say is that, they don't really care about us

The hot topic on everyone’s mouth is political parties and their broken promises. Even when we go for a café we see these members from political parties and their supporters saying “aadhe aadhe” to every word which they say. And I see some grown men stationed at these haruge’s fully committed to supporting these people 24/7 blabbering these words insulting their opponent’s dignity and respect. “Hiyaalu faalhu kurumuge minivankan” so they say. Don’t they have families to attend to? Don’t they have mouths to feed?

And after a busy day of work and when we meet our friends for a coffee why can’t we talk about something else. Something less depressing or less argumentative. Don’t you know already each of these political parties have they own interests in their mind. And everyone knows that the only people who will gain anything good from it is the political leaders and their families.

Politics is a dirty game of money, power and crime even the late Michael Jackson knows it

Skin head, dead head
Everybody gone bad
Situation, aggravation
Everybody allegation
In the suite, on the news
Everybody dog food
Bang bang, shot dead
Everybody's gone mad

All I wanna say is that
They don't really care about us

So for all the people who keep complaining about what they don’t have please count your blessings and also start to work for a living. Put an extra effort to everything that you do so you will get that satisfaction of achieving something on your own. Everyone talks about what their rights are but nobody talks about their responsibilities. And most important thing of all is to HAVE FAITH IN GOD.

SICK OF YOUR JOB? O NOT MOTIVATED ENOUGH?

How many of us ask our selves the above questions when we are fed up of our jobs and then decide to get another job (typical Maldivian culture). Before doing this why don’t you ask your self what you’re missing or why your not MOTIVATED enough.


Maslows Hirachy of Needs

Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a theory in psychology, proposed by Abraham Maslow in his 1943 paper A Theory of Human Motivation. I know most psychology and human resource students are familiar with this theory and No Im not trying to give a lecture, but I thought this theory applies to every human being and thought I would share what I know about ” motivation”

Maslow suggested that people are in a continuous state of motivation and nature of motivation variable and complex. Satisfaction is temporary and moves onto the next. In other words these needs start from bottom to top in order of priority when one satisfy lower ones and then move onto other ones.




1. Lower most level is physiological needs which are the basic necessity of every human being. To be taken care of before anything else eg: air, water, food, shelter, sleep and sex

2.Safety needs to protect themselves from danger and security needs such as job security

3.Love / social needs- need to be accepted by others especially from formal (office) and informal (friends) groups.

4.Esteem needs-Pride in them selves, sense of achieving something, Appreciation, become noticed, status

5.Self actualization needs- Accomplish everything which person is capable of

So which level are you on? I think I have reached love/social needs yet to reach esteem needs and self actualization needs.

I hope you found out how motivation works :D

Does locking your daughters in your houses really protect them from what’s out there?

My opinion really doesn’t have to match yours but here is a real life story (a summarized version minus the drama) to prove my point.

“Ish was raised by very reserved parents. And in her parents opinion a girl really doesn’t need to go out side and it is better for them to stay home to protect them from the outside world, so Ish did what she was told to do. As a result she was a bit socially awkward at times when she went out with her friends or at school.

At age of 15 most of her friends started to date and to fit in she also did the same. She didn’t think much nor did any research on what type of guy it was. What she only knew was he comes from a normal family, very social and hangs out with the cool kids. They were 2 years apart. Any sort of interactions between them was via telephone until she finished her school.

By that time her parents also started to accept the relationship. He had manners and really got along with her family members. The problem was that he hangs out with the hip crowd with a bad reputation and doesn’t have a stable job. Anyways they kept going with their relationship for years until he came up to her and confessed that he is into drugs. So for the relationships sake she decided to forgive him until her parents found out so it came to an end.”

Why didn’t she know by her self that he is an addict before he confessed after so many years?

Some parents think that locking their daughters from outside world really protects them but the truth is they are less aware of what happens outside world. The above story could have been different if she was aware of the outside world and was able to recognize these kinds of people. I am not saying that you should send your daughters where ever they want to go but let them see for them selves what’s going on.

What did she loose or gained in the end?

She spent most of teen years with this guy with no future while she could have been a regular teenager just enjoying her youth. However she had to learn the hard way that appearances can be deceiving and also to make better choices in life ahead.

SKIN COLOR, COOKING SKILLS OR BRAINS?

The other night when I came home around 2030hrs my sister was watching Sony. Must be the typical a scene at almost every house hold at that time of the day. Time to watch the hindi series after a busy day of household chores for the ladies.

I also decided to take a seat then suddenly there came this advertisement of a new hindi series. It shows a young girl playing in the sun when her mom or granma calls her to get out of the sun all because she could get darker skin (cant a girl enjoy a little bit of sun and her childhood after all playing is also part of their development), then it showed a grown up stage of her, she was studying and again her mom/grams come and tells her to reduce the amount of studies and do more household work because according to her after a girl gets married her studies goes to waste and household/cooking skills only come in handy( is cooking skills only for girls, what about for guys who prefers to be independent or decides to go abroad for their studies and away from their mommies). What was all that about???

Does it mean us girls, especially Asian girls are chosen for their cooking skills and skin tones rather than her brains. A person may have a lighter skin tone but does it make them a better person or if the girl is a good cook does it mean that she has no evil inside? All these questions came into my mind

I myself was told almost the same by a loved one of mine “why are you studying so much when you get married , have children and you have to stay home and take care of your kids and what you study goes to waste” I was deeply surprised and saddened at the same time. I know I can’t blame her for saying that there is a huge generation gap between us, almost forty years difference and I don’t mind if I had to stay home to take care of my OWN CHILDREN. But what I believe is if a mother is educated it does make a difference in “tharubiyyathu” of their own children.

But if a person is only chosen for their beauty but has no values in life what happens to their kids? And by the way, what happens to girls who are neglected because they don’t fit into the typical criteria of skin deep beauty?